Any Thoughts For Not Getting Trapped Into Retail Therapy?
I am day 2 into what could be 18+ weeks of basically bed rest. Already going stir crazy, surfing Amazon and E-Bay just looking at weird stuff, but finding myself saying "that would be nice to have." Tried going to other things but keep returning to it. Any suggestions, distractions, good reads or even good games to pass the time? I have downloaded some "Free" games from the google play store, trying to get into some new ones.
- Play Dave Ramsey podcasts or Youtube videos. The stark and dire financial situations of his callers -- a lot of them are in deep doo-doo -- might help keep you in check.
- Become a YNAB expert. Review all the online videos. Dispense advice and support on YNABs two forums, Facebook group, and/or Reddit group.
- Real books are always wonderful. Don't just get one or two books. Get a nice selection of fiction and nonfiction that you might enjoy.
Sorry to hear about your situation. I just got off a series of 12-hour days, and I'm walking-exhausted right now. Even so, the prospect of 18+ weeks of bedrest sounds more appalling than appealing.
Oof. I'd like to say that I would personally use the time to learn a new hobby, or actually become proficient at any of the number of things I've picked up for two minutes and then promptly forgot about (knitting! fly tying!) But I'd probably be just as drawn in by the thrall of online shopping as you are.
I have an odd suggestion considering you're probably looking for ways to keep your mind busy, but have you thought about taking up meditation? If keeping your mind from seeking harmful distractions is the goal, a short daily practice of awareness and focus may help!
18 weeks non-weight bearing (NWB) is a long time. You have my sympathy. How are the pain levels? I had a long time of restricted activity after an accident and a couple of surgeries. I had thought that I would get to read loads and catch up on lots of things but a combination of my brain and body shutting down slightly to recover and some fairly hefty painkillers meant I didn't get many of the planned things done. My brain and concentration levels were pretty useless for part of the recovery at least. I watched more TV than was good for me and got to spend a lot of time watching sport.
If you're allowed to sit (depends which joint is weight bearing) then I found the adult colouring books suitably distracting. Crafting things e.g. sewing, knitting are possible and they can be graded from the very easiest cross-stitch to quite hard. You could write a blog, research YNAB or other topics, etc but if you're on the computer you're more likely to get diverted to online shopping. I'm not much of a spender on stuff and found that my desire to spend went down when I was out of action because I couldn't do much.
For the lying down periods, I basically listened to a lot of podcasts and used the time to connect with people (email or phone - unless people came to visit).
With my ex-physio head on, remember that no doctor would make you (NWB) unless it was absolutely necessary so do try and stick within those restrictions. You definitely have to learn patience and get slightly zen about it. And REST. Your body needs it. Good luck.
I'm sorry to hear about your situation, that sounds tough.
One of the best (but probably most difficult) things to do is to actually feel the feelings that are behind the desire to shop. At the beginning you might not change the behaviour but simply pausing and asking yourself what you're feeling as you put things in your cart or go to check out might help.
As I said, it's not the easy route because it means becoming conscious of the feelings you're likely trying to avoid. In my experience with other addictions both personally (and professionally as a clutter coach), simply naming what I might be feeling is super helpful and usually leads to getting more support and/or changing my behaviour. This combined with having "healthier" ways of passing the time would make a big difference. Awareness is a powerful tool.
A lot of good advice on this post! I'm new to the forums and I'm just sorta browsing around and found this. I have a few quick things to add. I apologize in advance if I repeat anything:
- I don't think anyone has recommended that you listen to the YNAB podcast. The newer episodes are typically less than 5 - 10 minutes, and they're very informative.
- Reading books is a great suggestion that has been mentioned above. If possible, read FREE books available from your library or through your eReader if you have one.
- The downtime could be a great chance for you to consider 2019 changes.
- Camp out on these forums, even if you don't actually contribute. There are some very good posts here.
Hoping your recovery goes well!